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My dad recently died and me and my brother had to go clear up his house for sale. It was pretty unsettling feeling, the laundry was still in basket, his jacket against the chair, recent shoppings still unwrapped. Everything was like he just had stepped out for a minute. It felt wrong to clear out his things to boxes even if every logical cell in your brain told you no one would be using those things any more...Walking around the house, finding things he was planning to do, looking at the boxes wondering on how small space can one persons entire life fit...This is first time I've had to deal with all of this and unfortunately i'm young enough to have to deal with them many times more.
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I'm sorry for your loss and can sympathize with the issue you're facing, having dealt with it myself a number of times in the last 10 years or so. Find closure in the acts, celebrate your good memories by reliving them through the familiarity of your dad's presence amongst the trappings of his interrupted life there and take care.
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Yup. It is something good to face up to, though. Everyone should help close friends/family in times of need to do this, at some point. Not just the physical parts, but the social and fiscal and emotional parts.
It helps you think about your own death, and how you want to leave things when you go. Perhaps unexpectedly.
It's a good motivator.
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Test your description is very existential. I have some very close memories of this which are still haunting. Imagine trying to clean up after someone committing suicide?
I use to visit a public storage unit where I kept some things during a move and i felt like I was visiting the grave site of my stuff.
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Hang in there!
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I helped clear out my uncle's condo after he overdosed on sleeping pills. Not fun at all.
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Whats creepy is that while we were there for a weekend, both me and my brother kept waking up 3am all three nights...we dont know the time of his death.
Neither of us usually believe in paranormal yet we'll be staying at hotel during funeral.
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I remember cleaning out my Grandmother's house after she died. I was 11 or 12, and I went with my mom to help.
She was a hoarder. Bad.
But none of us really knew. Before my grandfather died their house was messy, but it was never too bad. After she died she always came to visit us. We never went there.
She died right before Christmas. She was actually in the process of wrapping our presents when she went into diabetic shock and died. In the living room were half wrapped Christmas presents, and a sad little fake Christmas tree. This room wasn't too bad. Unkempt, but not beyond what you might expect the average sloppy person to have.
The kitchen was filled with dirty dishes, the sink was disgusting. The refrigerator was filled with spoiled food. The floor was covered in sand. This room was overwhelming. The stench was unforgettable.
The two bedrooms were filled with piles of unwashed clothes, and a lot of papers and books. While sorting through the clothes and closets we found multiple dead rats at various stages of decomposition.
She must have been miserable there alone.
Her neighbor next door said that all she talked about was how much she missed my Grandfather. I remember telling my mother that maybe seeing my Grandfather was God's early Christmas present for her. She agreed.
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Tough stuff. Sorry for your loss.
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Test 
I lost my dad last year and had to go thru the very same thing. It gets better. Its also good for you to face this now and handle everything that needs to be taken care of.
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Whats creepy is that while we were there for a weekend, both me and my brother kept waking up 3am all three nights...we dont know the time of his death.
Neither of us usually believe in paranormal yet we'll be staying at hotel during funeral.
Remember this experience. You don't have to make it anything more than what it is, but also don't let it be dismissed by others when you are experiencing something unexplainable with others that are experiencing the very same thing.
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My Brother in law went back to Connecticut to see his parents who were both unable to care for themselves and were supposedly being cared for by his brother. He got there and found them living in squalor, uncared for, left alone by the brother. He said he found his father, who had Alzheimers, sitting in a pile of his own poop. Both of them were locked in their rooms in unwashed clothes with unwashed bodies and no food in the house.
Apparently his brother, who had said he would take care of them rather then putting them in a home, was busy drinking away the social security and retirement checks. In fact when he found his parents he went up to the corner bar and found his brother sitting there getting plastered with his stoner friends.
He said it was all he could do not to wipe the floor with the guy and that his brother and his friends basically told him to back off and then F off.
So he went home and called the cops. They took one look and went up to the bar to arrest the brother. His brother was charged with elder abuse and a host of other fun things. The sister, who also lived close, was taking some of the money and also doing nothing. She was charged as well.
He got his parents in a home and saw that they got care for the few months they lived after that.
As far as he's concerned he has no brother and sister.
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Maybe they molestered him as a child.
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Sorry to hear your loss Test. I lost my dad, too, unexpectedly. He left me with great memories.
When I was 10 or 11 my mom and my aunt went over to help clear out a house of a friend of my aunts. It was eerie. This is stupid, but I remember picking up the telephone and there was no dial tone. It freaked me out. It was like the house was dead.
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sorry for your loss Test 
My father was a hardcore horder. I dont think anyone at the time knew exactly what that was until later.
I am ashamed to say that I felt good taking his junk back to the thriftshops he bought the stuff at. To me I would think cycle of life when I did it.
He had so much stuff that for over four months I would take a full car load every day to the local Goodwill to get rid of it all.
Even so we still had to rent a huge truck and put the real junk in it and take it to the dump.
I think hording is related to depression. My father mustve been depressed for years and me being there probably didnt help him. Mental illness must run in my family
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Sorry man. That's not an easy thing to do. I've done it for some relatives and a couple of very good friends and it's eerie and unsettling.
My friends all think I'm nuts about how I keep my house. Everything goes where it's supposed to be at all times, and no mess ever. I can't sit down if the place isn't perfect. They think I'm joking when I tell them I just want it to be easy on whoever has to clear the place out if I drop dead....but I'm not.
I can't describe how awful my brothers house was when he died. Filthy, junk piled everywhere, it seriously looked like the inside of a dumpster. The fact that he had been in there for quite a while after he died didn't help matters any. I went thru and found a box of pictures, and a few personal items...and then paid a service to throw the rest of the stuff out.
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Have I mis-read this thread? Did Ptilk die?
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sorry for your loss test
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