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I notice that some of the women on these Match dates will exaggerate or even lie to in attempts to find things in common with me. Now this really wont work because its a lie and they really dont have that in common with me at all. I'd rather someone just be honest
I do think I talk too much on these dates and not listen enough and perhaps I should try hard to emphasize the things we have in common rather than looking for the things we dont have in common.
Hate to be superficial but the thing that stood out on my last match date was, "Smokers Face" She mentioned struggling with smoking and i could see it in her face.
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Both of you whip out your dicks and compare sizes. That should get some conversation going...
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How about both of you think she's awesome and interesting?
You are far too critical of the women you are trying to get to know and far too critical of yourself. You should find the narrative you want to represent and represent it. You don't have to tell her you have no friends and haven't been laid in ten years until the second date.
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One of my customers who gives me crap every week asked me about my latest match date and when he found out the results said, "Well she probably doesnt want to date a psycho."
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Why do you have to find things in common?
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For sure, having a bunch of crap in common doesn't sound like a huge positive. That customer of yours sounds like a douchebag, you should tell him to f*ck himself
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I am a bit surprised at the cool people I am meeting this time around online. Talking to about 5 different gamer chicks right now lol
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For sure, having a bunch of crap in common doesn't sound like a huge positive. That customer of yours sounds like a douchebag, you should tell him to f*ck himself
I wish I could. He looks exactly like the principle in Feeris Buellers Day off lol
He is a total ass he is trying to provoke me. I heard him talking to someone about his dad. He said his dad likes to try to piss people off. Well he is a chip off the old block
None of the women I go out with get scared of me or anything and my women customers seem to like me.
I like women. I'm confused by them though and even now I have trouble following the rules of the dating game. Why have rules at my age? Some of the women are quite old fashioned
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Stop being so judgemental bonk. People are flawed, and I think you are just seeking out flaws... You have plenty of baggage of your own. Why not just go out, have fun, and see how things turn out? Try not to think too much into little things or you will be forever alone.
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Ask questions then listen to them answer, then ask another question.
Nothing about you. You don't mean shit on a first date. It's all about her, and that's OK. The only things you need to have in common are you like her and you don't hate you.
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Bonk if you want to find a woman like your mom go try christian singles. You want a religious conservative woman that stays home all day and plays the housewife role. See that I just threw you a bone.
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Ask questions then listen to them answer, then ask another question.
Nothing about you. You don't mean shit on a first date. It's all about her, and that's OK. The only things you need to have in common are you like her and you don't hate you.
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Bonk, have you tried looking for women maybe 10-12 years younger than you? That age group may be perfect for you.
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Bonk, have you tried looking for women maybe 30-35 years younger than you? That age group may be perfect for you.
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That is mean. If I was a ten year old girl I would totally go hiking with Bonk, alone in the woods in Washington.
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Totally.
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Thanks for reminding me what this place really is
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No. We're just realistic about your prospects, at this point.
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No you are just part of the scum here
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From the scum every one of us flows, and scum again we shall be.
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Bonk, I'm gonna make this simple. On a date, unless she asks a question about you directly, keep the conversation going on her life. Girls love talking about themselves. You'll know very quickly whether or not this girl is right for you if you just keep letting her talk about her.
I think I'm an awesome guy and that everyone loves being around me. But when this girl
and she agreed to go on a date with me, I stopped caring about me and kept the focus on her. We've been together for close to 2 years now. I knew almost everything about her when we started dating and she knew very little about me. But she's getting all the info as we go along.
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Thanks
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Stop being so judgemental bonk. People are flawed, and I think you are just seeking out flaws... You have plenty of baggage of your own. Why not just go out, have fun, and see how things turn out? Try not to think too much into little things or you will be forever alone.
This is good advice. Try being humble and just go out with the intention of having a fun night out. Stop looking "despertly" for a love connection. You are putting too much pressure on the dates and the people on them. At this point I don't think anyone is going to meet your expectations because now they've been set so high. Just go out and have fun.
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Bonk, if you have a problemwith EVERY SINGLE ONE of them, YOU are the problem common to dating!
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It is very important to relax and let things happen naturally. Let go of your agenda and just be with the women you are with- appreciate them for who they are.
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Bonk, if you have a problemwith EVERY SINGLE ONE of them, YOU are the problem common to dating!
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learn how to talk to a real person and then talk to womenz. put your dating slow motion train wreck on hold for a bit and get some platonic friends.
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Heladric's girl posted:
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Bonk, I'm gonna make this simple. On a date, unless she asks a question about you directly, keep the conversation going on her life. Girls love talking about themselves. You'll know very quickly whether or not this girl is right for you if you just keep letting her talk about her.
I think I'm an awesome guy and that everyone loves being around me. But when this girl
and she agreed to go on a date with me, I stopped caring about me and kept the focus on her. We've been together for close to 2 years now. I knew almost everything about her when we started dating and she knew very little about me. But she's getting all the info as we go along.
So true. And if anyone will let me out of this closet I can escape.
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'Despertly' is not a word that should be involved in dating. Women will sense that from you in a heartbeat and you will not get a callback.
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Even if you spell it right?
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