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Subject: I was at the point of wanting to be violent with a 6-year old last night...
My daughter (5 now) came home telling me how a little boy essentially attacked her on the playground. Threw her down on the ground and wanted to see her panties and touch her bum. Was wrestling her to try and do that and god knows what else... Good girl kicked and fought him off and even told one of the teachers (YAY KIDDO!)

So I got a phone call yesterday after school about it, that they were going to talk to her teacher, and also get details of what happened from her, the boy and another classmate of my kid's that was around when it happened yesterday. Little rat fink changed his story today to "I was chasing her in the playground and ended up grabbing her pants." angry Spoke to her teacher today, and the school isn't really going to punish him, they had 3 conflicting stories about what happened (the second girl had some story about how he was just giving my daughter a wedgie, blah blah blah) but they're going to keep an eye out on things with the boy.

Now I know my daughter, and can't for a minute believe that she'd make any of it up, especially with the details of the threat from the kid "I'm going to cut you up into little pieces and eat you if you tell." So now I'm pissed off and I don't know if I should push the issue further with the school, I don't want to freak out my daughter because she's fine about it, incident over and she'll avoid him from now on. I don't want to traumatize her further about something that's already out of mind.

Mostly venting. You guys have kids, I wonder if any of you have had anything similar happen to your wee ones.

[face_fuming]

Oh, I did tell her that if anything similar ever happens again, she has my permission to do anything to get away, including kicking them in the teeth, yelling at the top of her lungs and running to a teacher or playground supervisor. I'm thrilled she DID fight back.

 

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Subject: I was at the point of wanting to be violent with a 6-year old last night...
she did the correct thing, and so did you.

everyone is going to keep a watch out now so i wouldn't scare her.

you can be scared for the both of you.



of course, it is easier for me to tell you that, than it will be for you to go thru it sad

 

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Subject: I was at the point of wanting to be violent with a 6-year old last night...
I am wrestling with a similar issue. There is a moderately autistic 10 year-old who is a bit too hands on (not sexually) with my boy (6 years old). Teachers are intervening but it is still happening so might have to escalate if the teachers cannot wrap their hands around this becuase of the boys disability

 

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Subject: I was at the point of wanting to be violent with a 6-year old last night...
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I am wrestling with a similar issue. There is a moderately autistic 10 year-old who is a bit too hands on (not sexually) with my boy (6 years old). Teachers are intervening but it is still happening so might have to escalate if the teachers cannot wrap their hands around this becuase of the boys disability


I can imagine it would be even harder for everyone to deal with because of that boy's disability... I'm sure they can figure something out though, even if it is just constant supervision and keeping that personal space cushion for your little one. It has to be distracting for him too!

 

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Subject: I was at the point of wanting to be violent with a 6-year old last night...
If the teachers wouldn't do anything about it, I would have yanked her out of that school immediately and found an environment more suited to how I wanted my child raised.

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My boy is in a difficult position now becuase of his special needs so socially and emotionally he is trying to understand what is going on

 

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Subject: I was at the point of wanting to be violent with a 6-year old last night...
Boy is probably being abused himself if he actually threatened about telling anyone in the manner he did.

The school should be calling child services. It's their duty to. Any hint of abuse must be investigated.

 

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-Kruugar- posted:
The school should be calling child services. It's their duty to. Any hint of abuse must be investigated.


Incorrect

 

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Brother_Tempus posted:
-Kruugar- posted:
The school should be calling child services. It's their duty to. Any hint of abuse must be investigated.


Incorrect


You obviously don't know any teachers.

I can't speak for jurisdictions outside of Canada but, a teacher has a duty to report any suspicion of abuse. Usually a call to children's aid will do. If a teacher suspects it and they don't call, they better not let anyone know they suspected it. It could cost them their job.

 

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You obviously don't know any teachers.




My kids go to private schools so any interaction with "the state" is minimal at best, I get texts and email from the teachers ... and they have told the state they are not welcome there

 

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Subject: I was at the point of wanting to be violent with a 6-year old last night...
Brother_Tempus posted:
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You obviously don't know any teachers.




My kids go to private schools so any interaction with "the state" is minimal at best, I get texts and email from the teachers ... and they have told the state they are not welcome there


They are playing the lawsuit lottery and can only lose.

If a daughter was being sexually abused, and there were signs of it happening and the teachers did nothing, they would all be fired and the mother would sue the educational intitution. Public or private, you must report signs of abuse.

 

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Subject: I was at the point of wanting to be violent with a 6-year old last night...
Oh, I would have pushed it ... terribly

 

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Subject: I was at the point of wanting to be violent with a 6-year old last night...
myxomatosis8 posted:
Brother_Tempus posted:
I am wrestling with a similar issue. There is a moderately autistic 10 year-old who is a bit too hands on (not sexually) with my boy (6 years old). Teachers are intervening but it is still happening so might have to escalate if the teachers cannot wrap their hands around this becuase of the boys disability


I can imagine it would be even harder for everyone to deal with because of that boy's disability... I'm sure they can figure something out though, even if it is just constant supervision and keeping that personal space cushion for your little one. It has to be distracting for him too!


The school placed the boy in a type of quarantine from the general population for a bit and that seems to have solved a lot. They are going to allow him back in and see

 

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Subject: I was at the point of wanting to be violent with a 6-year old last night...
don't be afraid to kick the hell out of a 6 year old....his parents aren't doing it...so it needs to be done

 

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